My six year old got in trouble the other day for making us late and missing my daughters dance performance. I had warned him a million times that I would leave him if he didn't come immediately (obviously I wouldn't do that, but I had to threaten it). He is notorious for making us late. I told him I was going to be very very angry if we missed it.
We ended up missing it and consequently he was punished. He was very emotional especially because he felt terrible for missing his sisters recital. He has a huge heart and I usually have to assure him that even if I punish him I will always still love him. I was doing just that before he went to bed that night. He had tears in his eyes as he hugged me and then asked, "Mommy did you ever do something like that when you were little and make everyone miss something important?"
I responded, "I might have, but probably not, because my mom would've just left me."
His eyes got huge. "Like really left you?"
I nodded. "Yep. I had to walk home many times if I wasn't right where she told me to meet her and right on time. . .and if we didn't come right when she called us, she left us. . .and we never ever got a second chance."
His eyes were still big as I continued, "But you know what that taught me?"
Cameron shook his head.
"It taught me to be on time, to listen to my mom and obey her the first time that she asked. It taught me to be responsible."
Cameron gave me a huge hug. "Do you forgive me mommy?"
I hugged him back. "Of course I do bud, but that still means that you are punished OK? There will always be a consequence for choices we make."
Cameron nodded. "I love you mom. I'm so glad that I have a nice mommy. . . who doesn't do really mean stuff to me. . . like your mommy did. I'm so glad that my mommy loves me."
I burst out laughing and he asked me why.
I told him that my mommy was his Grandma Rose-who he loves.
Cameron's eyes went wide and then he started giggle.
When I told my mom she started laughing hysterically.
Now I'm wondering if I am too nice. :)